[Disclaimer: in case you didn't guess by the title the following does include some moderately explicit language, including references to genitalia, sex acts, etc.]
I should begin by explaining that I have absolutely amazing roommates/friends. The two beautiful women I live with right now are two of my best friends. Both of them have been entirely supportive of me, my sexuality, my coming out (even in its limited capacity), etc. But in a conversation yesterday I discovered something (I find) really startling.
One of my roommates, though she thinks I deserve equal rights, equal treatment, etc, doesn’t think I can have real sex. I realize it’s a petty thing to be hung up on, but I’m fairly offended by that. I can’t have sex? Her exact words were something about how I can take part in “sexual acts” but not “real sex”. Apparently, real sex requires a penis.
Again… what?! I understand that the general understanding of sex (as has been put forth by a heterosexual majority) is very simplistic: penis + vagina = possible orgasm as well as possible pregnancy aka, the straight understanding of sex. But come on, is there not more to it than that? If there isn’t then I pity the straight couple concerned. But if for no other reason than for some meager representation from my own personal satisfaction, I would like to clarify in the here and now– I can have sex. Thank you very much.
If the distinguishing characteristic of “sex” is a penis than yes, I falter there, but if it’s “inserting” something, or eliciting orgasm, or bonding physically than I am 100% certain I can have sex. I find it interesting that one of the most liberal people I know can still look at me and tell me that because I don’t have a penis (and I have no interest in bonding with one) I can never have sex. *Sigh* I never thought I’d also be fighting for equal rights to equal sex.
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