This is just a general thing going over some of the basics of coming out. I am going to give out the warning right now in no way is this suppose to be a complete guide or a know all beat all of how a coming out thing will go. If you are a little confused or something this is referring to coming out which is slang for when a queer people tell others that they are LGBTQ.
I would say that “Coming Out” is more like a process than a single thing. I think it first starts with you. There are so many ways that this can happen. However you went about finding out that you are LGBTQ. When you find yourself being different from the “norm” you generally can pick one of two choices ( There are many more because humans are all different). A) You can reject the feelings that you have and try to fit the “norm”. B) You accept who you are.
Now that you have accepted who you are. There is still one thing that is in your way no one knows. So your next step after you are good and comfortable with yourself. You now have to make the really really big step and I would suggest that you don’t go diving into this. I would suggest try picking someone who is
A) LGBTQ
B) A really really good friend who you have at least a good feeling will accept you
C) Tell the person who has been saying that you are LGBTQ for the longest time.
D) which is Tell you ex-girlfriend that you left on really good terms with
E) Your parents
They will most likely support you (I Choose C and D) which is Tell you ex-girlfriend that you left on really good terms with).
Once you tell them you can move on to your parents which, is a big step. If you didn’t tell them first which you can defiantly do. This is assuming that you didn’t. This can be one of the most scariest parts of coming out because of the really close relationship that you have with your parents. I would suggest bringing it up with the one parent that you feel the closest to. If your family is extremely homophobic or you feel that they would not accept you I would strongly suggest that you get a support group out side of your home to support you through this step. I also think that you should tell your parents and give them the respect of knowing that your trust them. Not to say that everything is going to be fine or even comfortable for a while it maybe arguing as they digest what you have told them. They may take it really badly. I would give them time and also show them that this is who you are. As well as showing them that you are happy and feel safe being LGBTQ. If you can I would try to get some of your LGBTQ friends to come over and hangout and try to invite your parents into at least a little bit of your social life.
Here is the summary of “coming out” After the above mentioned steps you will always be “coming out”. To people you meet to finding new ways of expressing yourself to people. There will never be a time where you are done “coming out” you will always have to answer the Why’s, How’d you know and all the other questions that come up. So I guess this is about all I can think of for “Coming Out” Guide thing so I hope you like it. So let the “coming out” continue down its own weird path.
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