The Push and Pull of Lesbian Relationships

     Why is it that we are always pushing or pulling in relationships, forever jockeying for position? Is every connection with another human being always about a power play? Can two people ever really commit to being equal parties, both equally responsible and present in the partnership?

     Enough questions, you must be thinking. Tell me something meaningful or shut up, already. Okay. I’ll tell you what my experience tells me.

     Every relationship is defined by implied roles that all parties agree to, either consciously or subconsciously. We all expect something out of every relationship we get involved in, whether it is a friendship, business liaison, or something more intimate. In the beginning, as we try to establish the rules of the relationship, we pursue the other person, hungry for approval and some sign of interest from them. It is no surprise that every human being on the planet has to chase down what they want in life, making themselves vulnerable in order to communicate their interest to the other party. Essentially, you are trying to pull them to you.

     Two lesbos intent on engaging in the tango of romance, most certainly engage in a type of push and pull as they establish the boundaries of the relationship and fight for just the right dose of support and distance, ultimately wanting the best of both the single and married worlds. This ongoing dynamic explains the push and pull we all experience as we try and live together in harmony, while maintaining a certain desired degree of independence.  Whenever I feel stifled or hurt, I am quick to push them away to distance myself from the offender. By the same token, whenever my girlfriend pulls away from me, I find myself catering to her more, and trying to “make nice,” always anxious about something I may have said or done to alienate her.

     The push and pull of any relationship can become exhausting unless the two of you quickly work out the rules of play, so that you can relax some and stop posturing twenty-four hours a day. If you’re lucky, you and your beloved will eventually fall into a rhythm that suits you both, where you’ll enjoy the support you need from a loving a partner, without losing the independence you need to feel like you are your own person. Problems arise, when you or your partner are not secure enough to let the other one have the needed space to follow their dreams and enjoy the things they value in life.

     We all need time alone. How much time we need depends on the person. Giving each other space can cure a lot of problems. It’s no surprise that most of us appreciate our true love that much more after we’re away from her for a few days. Perspective is everything. How you feel about her when you’re apart for a few  days, says a lot about how important she is to you, and whether she is worth all the fuss.

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Pantyhose, Footjob, Handjob and Fucking Threesome

Holy shit, what a sex crazed night I had this evening. I think this night rates up there with one of the wildest sex nights I’ve ever had. It’s after 2:30 am and I’m still revved up about it.

Ok, I’ll start from the beginning. Earlier in the evening I wanted to go out. I wanted to do something crazy sexually. I kept going back and forth on what to do. I was thinking about a transsexual. I was thinking about a strip club. I was thinking about  the adult entertainment center near me where I could get actual sex. Massage parlors were out of the question because I have a wound on my foot and I don’t want it touched but I want to have a complete massage including my feet if I get one. I was determined to do something. I took a Viagra to make sure that whatever I did I would be hard for it. Once I took the Viagra I absolutely had to do something.

I started by calling visiting Transsexuals in the big city near by. The first one I called had a full voice mail so I called another one. She answered and said that she isn’t in town. I contemplated the one that I visited before but she was kind of quick and I could see her anytime. So transsexuals were out.

I headed to the adult entertainment center where I knew I would get at least a handjob and footjob from April, the woman I wrote about before. The last time I was there Candy was also there. I used to visit Candy months ago and she had left for a while and apparently came back. Candy does handjobs, blowjobs and footjobs. My fantasy was to get April and Candy together and have them both wear pantyhose while they jerked me off and maybe blew me.

I stopped off to buy the pantyhose and arrived there just as the Viagra was kicking in. April was there in her booth. Great. I looked for Candy and she wasn’t there. I spotted this other blonde haired girl named Jade that looked pretty hot. The floor man, Charlie, that arranges the private sessions is a guy I’ve known for 16 years because I worked there back in 1994, different roommates of mine have worked there and I am an on and off customer. I usually stop going when I have a girlfriend. I told him I wanted to have a 2 girl session with April and Jade. He lead me to the little room with a one foot stage, a mirror as a wall behind it and a chair in front. Charlie took some of my money and told me to put some in the machine in the room. He told me not to worry about the time limit and he’ll give me extra time. Nice. I was hard already before the girls even showed up.

Jade came in first and I introduced myself then April followed. I handed them each a pair of pantyhose to wear for me. I asked what Jade did and she said everything. She corrected herself and said everything except for anal sex. I watched the two girls put on the pantyhose as I dropped my pants to the floor. I knew what April charges for gives handjobs and footjobs. I asked Jade what she charged for blowjobs and fucking. She told me. I said let’s do everything then. We did.

It was so crazy having these two hot girls in tan pantyhose to touch while they touched and kissed me that it’s huge blur. I asked if I could take photos of their feet on my cock and they agreed. They just didn’t want their faces in anything. They played with my cock back and forth with their feet and their hands. I was so hard from the Viagra and the experience. I felt their sexy pantyhose asses and legs. I sucked their average sized tits. They shoved them in my face at the same time. I prefer medium and small tits so it was great. Their hands were all over my body and face. April lets me kiss her so we made out on and off. I asked them to kiss and they did while they were still touching me.

Jade pulled out a condom and put it on my cock so she could blow me. I kissed April while Jade sucked away at my throbbing cock. They both played with my balls. I told April to jerk me off into Jade’s pretty little mouth. April jerked me into her mouth and pushed Jades head down to deep throat me then pulled her head back. She kept moving her head on my cock and April kept jerking it and playing with my balls. I told them that I was ready to fuck.

I stood Jade up and bent her over. I pulled her pantyhose down and shoved my cock deep in her tight pussy. I was surprised that it was so tight on my 9” cock. As I fucked her standing doggie style I kissed April and felt her pantyhose ass. I told April to sit down and put her pantyhose feet on Jade’s back so I could lick them and suck her toes. I took in the aroma too. Meanwhile I kept pounding Jade’s pussy and she was moaning. April started touching Jade while I fucked her. I told Jade to lay on the stage so I could fuck her missionary style with her pantyhose legs and feet in the air. I got on my knees and fucked her pussy and played with her feet while April’s hands were all over the both of us. She played with my ass and balls as I kept slamming Jade. My knees were starting to hurt so I told Jade to sit on my cock on the chair.

Jade took one of her legs out of the pantyhose and wore them on one leg so she could ride my still throbbing cock. She climbed on top of me and really fucked me. She could move. April sat behind her and put her feet on my legs. I played with April’s feet some more while Jade fucked the shit out of my cock. I could only take a few minutes more of this before I was ready to cum hard. I wanted to cum on their hands.

I pulled out of Jade and told them both to put one hand on my cock. I watched the two hands on my cock and it was amazing. It was one of my fantasies come true. I wanted to shoot my cum all over their hands. They jerked me off so fast that I came within a minute or so. I cam all over their hands and they loved it. I loved it more.

Wow. I lived out my two girls in pantyhose, footjob, handjob, and fuck fantasy all in one night with two hot ladies. I was so high from the experience and the Viagra. I couldn’t see straight.

We cleaned up and chatted and I hugged them together and said my goodbyes. On my way out I told Charlie how great they both are.

I got in my car feeling high as a kite and still horny as hell. I wanted to do something else. Strip club time.

I’ll write about that one next. Stay tuned.

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THE TWO FACES OF THE CATHOLIC CHURCH

…the Bleacherman has entered the stadium…

This blogger recently read that the Denver Archdiocese has denied a preschool child the right to enroll in Catholic school because his (or her) parents are lesbians.  The Church issued a statement that basically said that it only wants children whose parents abide by church policies.

What bullshit!  What an absolute insult to our intelligence!  What two-faced hypocrisy!

So let me get this straight.  The teachings of God pretty much demand tolerance, compassion and an open heart to all of his children.  It’s buried in pages and pages of doctrine and dogma but that pretty much says what it says in a quick, Cliff-note translation.

So now the Church in Denver only wants children of parents who abide by church policies.  So, tell me oh great defenders of doctrine, what about single women who had children out of wedlock?  You know, not being a virgin on one’s wedding night is a no-no so do you take their children?  What about congregants who have committed or are committing adultery? Or once, decades ago, had an abortion?  Do you exclude all of those children as well?

And tell me, pious and noble ones, what about the perverts, those priests, those men of God that run around your sacred and hallow grounds molesting children?  Do you ostracize them in any way?  No, of course not, you forgive them and send them off to new and fresh hunting grounds to find fresh, innocent meat to abuse.

What bullshit!  How in God’s name do you hold a child responsible for the behavior of their parents?  You are nothing but hypocrites.  I am sure God is crying over your abomination in his name.

…the Bleacherman has left the stadium…

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Sarah

Sarah, she was my first. I still remember when I met her. I was fourteen walking my sister to school and she was meeting up with her friend. Sarah wore a khaki pleated skirt and uniform shirt. She was so pretty. I remember her freckles, I’d never really seen a mexican with freckles. She was quiet, the way she moved the way she spoke. Everything about her was delicate. I think I loved her from the beginning. I don’t know how exactly we came together but she and I spent many nights together. She wasn’t my first kiss but she was my first everything else. I kind of feel bad looking back at it because at times I could be quite mean to her. I was ashamed of the feeling I had for a girl of the same sex. I was ashamed of the intimate things we did, so I took it out on her. I was very mean in my words and actions. Giving her the cold shoulder at times then following it by guiding her to my room. This relationship went on and off for four years. Sometimes I would see her at the house when I visited my family and we would just give a head nod but nothing beyond that but other times It was like dynamite. When I was eighteen I introduced her to the man that became her husband and the father of her two children.

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Equal Rights to Equal Sex?

[Disclaimer:  in case you didn't guess by the title the following does include some moderately explicit language, including references to genitalia, sex acts, etc.]

I should begin by explaining that I have absolutely amazing roommates/friends.  The two beautiful women I live with right now are two of my best friends.  Both of them have been entirely supportive of me, my sexuality, my coming out (even in its limited capacity), etc.  But in a conversation yesterday I discovered something (I find) really startling.

One of my roommates, though she thinks I deserve equal rights, equal treatment, etc, doesn’t think I can have real sex.  I realize it’s a petty thing to be hung up on, but I’m fairly offended by that.  I can’t have sex?  Her exact words were something about how I can take part in “sexual acts” but not “real sex”.  Apparently, real sex requires a penis.

Again… what?!  I understand that the general understanding of sex (as has been put forth by a heterosexual majority) is very simplistic: penis + vagina = possible orgasm as well as possible pregnancy aka, the straight understanding of sex.  But come on, is there not more to it than that?  If there isn’t then I pity the straight couple concerned.  But if for no other reason than for some meager representation from my own personal satisfaction, I would like to clarify in the here and now– I can have sex.  Thank you very much.

If the distinguishing characteristic of “sex” is a penis than yes, I falter there, but if it’s “inserting” something, or eliciting orgasm, or bonding physically than I am 100% certain I can have sex.  I find it interesting that one of the most liberal people I know can still look at me and tell me that because I don’t have a penis (and I have no interest in bonding with one) I can never have sex.  *Sigh* I never thought I’d also be fighting for equal rights to equal sex.

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Here's A Friggin Story

Marcia, Marcia, Marcia, you are such a biatch! Seems that lesbian denying Eve Plumb hasn’t forgiven Maureen McCormick for spilling the beans on her in  Here’s The Story autobiography. No seriously she is pissed. So much so she is refusing to be in the same room with her (obviously she isn’t quite over the whole lesbi thingy) which kinda makes the NBC reunion seem pointless because she has declared herself a no show. Hmm, probably the reason why the whole thing has been canned. McCormick claimed in her book she and Plumb had an on-set sexual relationship (ewh, incest), something Plumb has adamantly denied. Geez, makes Barry Williams (Greg Brady) and Florence Henderson’s (Mrs Brady) date seem pathetic. Did I mention McCormick also had a fling with Williams as well. Marcia sure was a slut!

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Blowing Kisses and Giving Big Smooches!

Blowing Kisses and Giving Big Smooches!

By Karen L. Gushta, Ph.D.

Last fall President Obama declared that September 28, 2009 should be observed as Family Day. He urged families to celebrate “with appropriate ceremonies and activities to honor and strengthen our Nation’s families.”

The president noted that “families encourage us to do our best and enable us to accomplish great things.” And parents, he said, “bear significant stress and burdens to protect their children from harmful influences.”

What kinds of “harmful influences” did he have in mind? The president’s list included alcohol, tobacco, or prescription and illicit drugs, and other harmful behaviors which, he said, “can destroy the mind, body, and spirit of a child.”

Conspicuously absent were pornography, promiscuous sex and homosexuality–behaviors so devastating to the physical and emotional well-being of adolescents that those who promote them are waging a de facto war on children and youth.

Promiscuity, for example, carries severe consequences. A 2006 study showed that one in every four girls in public high schools in this country is infected with an STD. Approximately 12 million Americans contract STDs every year—nearly three percent of the entire population. What’s more significant, however, is the fact that of this group, 65 percent are younger than 25 years of age. Youth who become infected with STDs are less likely to seek immediate treatment, and therefore more susceptible to the long-term devastating health effects of these diseases, such as sterility, damage to the brain and heart, cervical cancer, and incurable genital warts.

And what is the president doing in the face of this? Rather than promote abstinence, which is the only sure way one can be protected from STDs, the Obama administration’s budget redirected funds from abstinence-only programs, such as Community-Based Abstinence Education and Title V Abstinence Education, to what are termed, “evidence-based and promising teen pregnancy prevention programs.”

But the “evidence” favors abstinence. Robert Rector of the Heritage Foundation reports that abstinence programs that include a virginity pledge “dramatically lower rates of teen births.” Abortion rates, teen sex, and out of-wedlock births all decrease among teens who have made such a pledge. Although not all teens keep their pledge, this form of abstinence education results in the “number of sexual partners down a third to a half, compared to kids from a similar socioeconomic background.”

What about pornography? Twenty percent of Internet porn involves children. Ninety percent have viewed it online—most while doing their homework. Homegrown pornography, aka sexting, is the latest moral virus to infect cell phones and young souls. Only 25 percent of 7th to 12th graders have a filter or parental controls on their computers, and only three percent of porn sites require adult verification before entering.

Since the Warren Court opened the floodgates of pornography in the late ’60s by a series of 34 unsigned per curiam decisions, social conservatives have attempted to get legislation passed to reign in the purveyors of porn who now freely post on the Internet.

Where does the Obama administration stand on this threat to children? One might say they are “in bed” with the pornography lobby, having appointed David Ogden as Deputy Attorney General. Ogden’s resume includes service for clients such as Penthouse and Playboy, amicus briefs defending child pornography in Knox v. United States and opposing the Children’s Internet Protection Act of 2000.

Finally, what about strengthening families by protecting the institution of marriage itself? In his Family Day proclamation, the president proclaimed that families of same-sex couples can also “encourage us to do our best and enable us to accomplish great things.” But research has shown that family configuration has significant impact on children’s well-being. And while there is still a limited amount of research on same-sex parenting outcomes, social science research is unequivocal in finding that children do best with a mother and father. An abundance of research also shows that children suffer in manifold ways when their home is fatherless or their parents divorce.

It’s clear who suffers when society tinkers with God’s structure for marriage of one man and one woman for the sake of social experimentation and a socially defined right to marry.

While the president gave one day to recognizing families, he declared the whole month of June “Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Pride Month, 2009,” and affirmed his administration’s support for ensuring gay adoption rights and civil unions. He also inexplicably appointed Kevin Jennings, founder of the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN), to be the “safe schools” czar at the Department of Education. When he was a teacher, Jennings failed to report a homosexual statutory rape of a 15-year-old boy. Jennings has praised pro-pedophile gay activist Harry Hay and promoted books detailing seductions of teen boys by older men. What’s more, GLSEN sponsored a forum in which 14-year-olds were told how to perform dangerous homosexual acts.

Unless Mr. Obama’s administration follows through with family friendly social policies that seek the best interests of children, his Family Day Proclamation smacks of little more than lip service. Blowing kisses at the family while giving big smooches to all things gay, shows where the president’s heart really is.

Karen L. Gushta, Ph.D., is a researcher at Coral Ridge Ministries and author of The War on Children (Coral Ridge Ministries, 2009).

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